No.
It is impossible. With a few exceptions:
1.) The guy is gay
2.) The guy is friends with a girl by association
3.) The guy does not find the girl attractive at all
When guys and girls first meet they subconsciously rate each other. We do this automatically, whether we realize it or not. Look at two random pictures of two random girls and you'll automatically pick the more attractive one as the one you'd rather be making breakfast for the next morning.
However, that is just one piece of the pie. Guys rate girls off of a few different variable, and those variables usually consist of attractiveness, how quick they think she will put out, and a couple other things that do not really matter because if the girl is hot enough we tend to not care if you're interesting.
Girls have a much different rating system. It is still based off of attractiveness, but women also look for security. Which is a fancy word for money. This scale is all relative in the sense that a 16 year old's sense of security will be different than a 28 year old's sense of security, but money is a factor none the less.
This is the first thing I am usually challenged on. My sister had her friend over one night (while she still lived with me). I was actually preparing a presentation on this exact topic. She started to inquire about what I was working on and I explained it to her. She immediately brought up the argument that she dated a "poor artist" and there is no way she cares about money if this is true. I laughed for a few minutes, dried the tears in my eyes, and went on to explain why I was right. The conversation went something like this:
Girl- "I dated a poor artist, so I obviously don't care about money."
Me - "You're 16 right?"
Girl - "Uhh yeah"
Me - "Does he have a car?"
Girl - "Yeah, a Mazda"
Me - "Can he buy beer?"
Girl - "Yeah, he has a really good fake ID"
Me - "Well, that's all you really care about at this age, until you hit your late 20's you won't exactly be looking for a CEO driving a BMW"
If you're still not convinced, ask yourself this: If you were dating a great guy, but you lost him in a room full of clones, and all they had on them was their bank account statements. Which one would you take home? Case closed.
Next question.
Why do I say attractiveness is the base of the rating systems? Well, that is simple. When you see a guy from across the room you don't think that maybe that guy can fill your life with lots of intellectually stimulating conversation, you check out him out. "Eye fuck the shit out of him" if you will.
If you see a girl at a bar, are you nudging your friend next to you saying "Dude, wing me really fast, I think that girl and I could have an amazing conversation about politics". Nope, it's more like "fuck, that girl is hot, I want to stick my P in her V".
Now, that you understand how girls and guys rate each other. Let's review what happens next...
Let's now turn our attention to the player, and the hopeless romantic.
The player.
He is your typical alpha male. Pumped full of hormones and Redbull. He knows how to play his cards right. He talks to a girl in hopes of having sex with her at some point. One of three things will happen at this point:
1.) She is attractive, and she thinks he is attractive. They will eventually sleep together
2.) She is attractive, but she thinks he is unattractive, but a nice guy. He will hopefully pick up on this quickly or will end up spending his evenings eating Ben n' Jerry's ice cream, watching reruns of the hills, and hearing all about the guys she actually wants to date/fuck.
3.) She is unattractive. He does not even approach her in the first place.
I have approached unattractive girls before. But they are the last ones on my list to call. Most of the time they just end up signing the attendance sheet for classes I don't feel like going to and taking notes in said classes. The only reason I bring that up, is because one of those very special girls just texted me. I get girl's numbers almost instinctively now. It comes as natural to me as breathing, and I'll forget to breathe before I leave empty handed. However, sometimes my filtration system is not working up to par or I am too tired to notice her double chin. But it's all good. Everyone has a purpose.
The hopeless romantic.
This is the guy you typically see in Nicolas Sparks movies. He is charming, but has no foul intentions with girls. If he talks to you he intends to sweep her off her feet every chance he gets and bla bla bla the crap Disney shoves down your throat.
More or less an exaggeration, but you get the point: his sex drive is not his first focus. The scenarios that play out with this guy are as follows:
1.) He meets a girl, she is attractive, and she finds him attractive. He does not care to have sex with her necessarily (although he would) he just gets her number and moves on. They go out together, meet up for drinks, and continue talking. He begins to find her more and more interesting. He starts to fall in "love" and makes his move. Lucky for this guy, she finds him attractive too. They date and eventually they have sex.
2.) He meets a girl, she is attractive, and she finds him unattractive. He does not care to have sex with her necessarily (although he would) he just gets her number and moves on. They go out together, meet up for drinks, and continue talking. He begins to find her more and more interesting. He starts to fall in "love" and makes his move. But this time, she does not find him attractive, and she says she would rather just stay "friends". After the feelings he has developed for this girl that would be impossible, and now you have that awesome awkward tension that fills up every room you two coexist in.
3.) She is unattractive, but still for some reason approaches her anyways (maybe she has a hot friend). He will eventually meet an attractive girl and this girl will take the back seat, or maybe thrown in the trunk if she fits. This is the exception in which guys and girls can be friends, but they are the first ones laid off when the company makes cut backs, out in dodge ball, and cut from the team.
It does not matter if you take "A" street or "B" street you always end up at "sex" street. Friendship road just has too many potholes, its been closed since the dawn of time.
However, guys and girls can be friends by association. If my buddy were to start dating a girl, as long as she is not a total bitch I would probably be nice to her. That does not mean I want to hang out with her. In fact I would never see her unless my friend decided to drag her along every when we hang out. Once they were to break up, she is dead to me.
If you are a guy and you debate any of what I have just said. You're most likely a bitch. You probably never get laid, and you're just making poor excuses for yourself. Learn to play your cards right, and you'll have to clean your toilet bowl a lot less often and probably have a lot more clean pairs of socks laying around.
If you're a girl and you argue this well you're probably normal. But last time I gave this presentation I laced my introduction with "all the girls in this class will probably disagree". But it turns out that the hottest girls were the ones that backed me up. One even said "you're totally right, I meet tons of guys and I think everything is fine then they always end up blowing up my phone asking me out, and once I turn them down I usually don't hear from them again". Think about it ladies, is that you?
Some say once you are in the friend's zone there is no going back. I disagree. I have found a small hole in the friend prison and I recently made a break for it with a girl I knew in high school. We were great "friends" in high school and I was that guy eating Ben n' Jerry's and watching the Hills. We didn't have sex, but whatever, since I last saw her became a devote christian, and what we did last night was definitely a grand slam in christian baseball.
Well without further ado, the secret formula:
Cut off all communication with girl + Change everything about yourself + 1 or 2 years = another shot at happiness
If you are "friends" with a girl you're madly in love with, keep reminding yourself it's better than nothing... sucker...
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